KNOWING YOU 1%

I’ve got a conversation with one of my good friend, IR last night that inspire me to write this.. for a time being, I think I’ve got to know that person for a very long time but IR make me realize that the fact is actually vise versa.

The starting point of a friendship is varied. From the same old school, or the social society till the pen pals network. When we get to know someone, it actually starts from zero. Getting to know her name, her identity etc will add the percentage of our memory about her. And it keep on growing by times and communication that we’ve made. Till the time that we felt, we had known them, very good enough to make our own perception and assessment toward our friend. Knowing her 100%. Even her piece of mind.

Sometimes we feel comfortable to be with her. Felt free to share secrets, problems, opinions.. Until we think that there’s no difference between us. Just feeling that she is ”another me”. Our mind starts to create “her” in our own way. Undirectly forcing her to be the one we want her to be. Not the way she truly is. So at the moment she makes unexpected or the things that out of our box of mind, we rapidly, and fiercely judging her without counting her reason. Actually we’ve made mistake. We’re actually knows nothing about her except 1% that she shows it off. Lukmanul Hakim had said :

“ try hard to think every action and even a single words that took by anther person, then you’ll know their reasons and their thought..”

Perception… is subjective. For some action that have been made and for the thinking that have been subjected, we can make the judgment in many different ways. Practically, we’ll make the assessment in our own way and sometimes we don't even know that we've make a wrong interpretation. The thing is not actually what we think it is. We’ve forgot the 99% of her that we haven’t know yet. 99% that didn’t show off. 99% that make her the way she is. So please hold your judgment, ask and make it clear as it is actually a process to know someone better. try to put ourselves in other shoes and be an understanding person because knowing her clearly need a process…

~Learning to appreciate others, the way they are..~